STRESS..HOW TO COPE IT??

• When you feel stressed, practice taking long, deep breaths.
• Take regular breaks from your work.
• Get regular exercise. Shoot for a minimum of 20 minutes three times per week.
• Eat a balanced diet.
• Avoid caffeine, which is a stimulant.
• Avoid depending upon drugs and alcohol to help you relax. This can quickly become a crutch.
• Learn time management and organization skills.
• Use humor to lighten difficult situations.
• Seek to find the positive in every situation. View adversity as an opportunity for learning and growth.
• Do not bury your emotions. This is a temporary fix at best. Unresolved emotions can resurface as nightmares or physical illness.
• If you find that a relationship makes you stressed, end it if possible. If it's not possible, remember that you may not be in control their behavior, but you are in control of how you react to it.
• Give compliments freely and smile often. You'll be amazed how the mood around you will change and how in turn you will feel better.
• Learn to really listen to what others are saying rather than getting upset because you disagree. Seek to find areas of common ground and work for a compromise.
• Tips:
• Scented candles, soft music and a hot bath are great ways to relax after a hard day.
• Many report that herbs such as Valerian and Kava Kava help them relax.
• Meditation or biofeedback training can be an excellent way to control your body's response to stress.

HOW TO MANAGE THE TIME

Step1 : Create a schedule or to-do list. Write down deadlines for accomplishing certain tasks.

Step2 : Plan to tackle difficult projects at the times of day when you are most alert.

Step3 : Schedule time for people, including yourself. Create some personal time by waking up half an hour earlier or going to bed half an hour later than usual; plan a weekly date with your spouse, or arrange to have lunch with friends.

Step4 : Prioritize what you need to accomplish. "Pareto's principle" states that 80 percent of your accomplishments come from 20 percent of your efforts, so think strategically: Locate and isolate this valuable 20 percent, then focus your efforts on the tasks that promise the greatest rewards.

Step5 : Delegate as many chores as you can. Hand out projects to subordinates at work, recruit your children to help with household chores, hire a gardener to maintain your lawn.

Step6 : Learn to say no to nonessential demands on your time. Don't volunteer for a committee if you don't have time, and decline invitations to events you don't have time to attend.

Step7 : Overcome procrastination.

Step8 : Avoid perfectionism. Don't waste time obsessively perfecting a task when you could better spend the time on something else.

A list of ten ways to cheer up when feeling blue or mildly depressed.

At times, everyone gets the blues or feels mild depression without recognizing a specific reason for it. It can hit without warning, but we don't have to stay there for long. In fact, it's healthier for us to move as quickly as we can to a more positive mood.

Top Ten Ways to Cheer Up

Consider this list of the top ten ways to cheer up. The next time you feel blue try one or more of these to see what works for you. Then keep these cheering up tools handy for future use.

10. Breathe

Breathing is normally a subconscious function, but conscious breathing can help reduce stress and tension. Focusing on your breathing keeps your attention on the present moment and is a common component of meditation, a proven stress reducer. Breathe deeply and slowly, noticing each breath you inhale and exhale.

9. Laugh

Laughter is the best medicine. Keep handy a book of jokes or a favorite comic strip cartoon. When you feel blue, immerse yourself in the humor and go for a stomach-aching full laugh. Deep laughter improves your immune system and helps you keep life's problems in perspective.

8. Return to Nature

Go for a walk in a park, sit by a fountain, or gaze at a poster of your favorite ocean or mountain scene. Reflecting on a beautiful natural scene can lift your spirits.

7. Gratitude

Make a brief list of three to five things in your life for which you are grateful. Reflect on each item and identify the positive way it impacts your life.

6. Give of Yourself

Providing an uplifting message or thought to someone else also uplifts you. Call an elderly relative or friend. Offer a few minutes of your time to baby-sit or walk the dog for a busy neighbor. Helping another moves your focus and will improve your spirits.

5. Exercise

A brisk walk or any other form of physical exercise will improve your mood. Weed the garden or clean the house. The physical activity will help lift your mood.

4. Daydream

Recall a great vacation or a wonderful family reunion. Reflect on a card or letter someone sent you that was touching and showed they cared for you.

3. Use a Strength

We all have unique strengths, capabilities at which we are particularly talented. Use one or more of your strengths in some activity. If you don't know your strengths, take the VIA questionnaire.

2. Tend Something You Care About

Tend to a garden, a favorite house plant, a pet, or your car. When we tend something we provide a loving, caring attention to it that is a form of giving. Tending is not a chore, it's a blessing.

1. Apologize

Guilt and regret can hang around us like a lead weight, bringing on mild depression without our awareness of the cause. Offer up a sincere apology for things you've done or said that offended or hurt another. You'll feel the relief of your burden of regret even if you aren't able to personally deliver the apology. Offering it up to the Universe is sufficient.

A MOTHER'S LOVE

A Mother's love is something
that no on can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away . . .

It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking . . .
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems . . .

It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation . . .
A many splendoured miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.

If you had to choose between betraying your country, family or friends, which would you choose??

country~
i will never betray my country because if i betray it i'm the person who are not grateful with this country.

family~
i love them very much so i will never betray them for my selfishness. i might lose them forever and they might cast me away from their lives.

friends~
i will betray them if they betray to me first. i will not protect for such a person who doesn't
appreciate me.

October 23, 2008 12:27 AM